Last week I introduced you to someone very dear to me. It seems like a major disservice to call our relationship one of client/Dr. I believe in my soul, he loved me deeply. I am definitely not alone in this belief. I am under the impression that just about everyone that Dave counseled felt as though he cared for them as more than just his clients.
This is definitely an area in which he was equipped via the Holy Spirit. He loved BIG! Unconditionally and completely as if showering you with the love that can only come from the Father.
Dave called God “Papa”. This is how he viewed God. As his daddy! I love this so much! We spend so much time thinking of God as this tyrant up in the sky that will love us as long as we behave, rather than a father walking hand in hand with us. Cheering us on and holding us up, no matter our behavior. In fact, often in spite of our behavior!
The 4 R’s
In my process of re-reading my journals that I kept through my work with Dave, one of the first tools he gave me was “The 4 R’s”. Let me give credit where credit is due. Dave actually taught me the 3 R’s. But, my husband came up with another and Dave LOVED it and adopted it into his “R” tool.
The first R is actually the one that Jeff came up with. In your evaluation of your emotions, hurts, issues, it is vital to recognize all of the ways in which the enemy has found a way to brand a lie into your soul. Lies about who you are in Christ. Lies that directly contradict what Papa says to be true about his master piece (which is you).
Recognition of these lies is the first step in destroying them for good.
The definition of “renounce” is to “Refuse to recognize or abide by any longer.” or “declare that one will no longer engage in our support”. So, once the lies in your soul have been identified, the next vital step is to RENOUNCE these lies. The say “I no longer agree with this as truth. I won’t go on pretending and living as if it is truth any longer.” Dave was very big on writing all of this down and then actually speaking it out loud.
At this point you have identified the lies and you have vehemently rejected them as such. Now, it is essential that you remove them from you soul. I always think of a fridge in this instance. I recognize that the item that is so stinky is the week old fish. When I smell the fish I have a look of utter disgust on my face and I mentally condemn it. But, unless you’re one of my children who is in the habit of leaving such repulsive ingredients right where they found them, you would be crazy to leave that fish right where you found it, to contaminate the entire fridge and eventually house with it’s vial smell, right? It MUST be removed.
So it is with the lies infesting your insides. They must be extracted. They must be removed.
Last but not least in the 4 R’s, you must replace the void in your soul with promises from Papa.
“When an evil spirit leaves a person, it goes into the desert, seeking rest but finding none. Then it says, ‘I will return to the person I came from.’ So it returns and finds its former home empty, swept, and in order. Then the spirit finds seven other spirits more evil than itself, and they all enter the person and live there. And so that person is worse off than before. That will be the experience of this evil generation.”
I believe this is the place where, alcoholism, drug addictions, sexual addictions, affairs, lies of all kinds, etc. etc. etc. thrive. If you have swept your house clean and overcome some terrible lies in your soul, you MUST refill it with all that is good. You must dig deeper into the one who wants to walk intimately with you.
In that place, you will find rest. You will find freedom. And you will find love.
Happy Family Friday!
Thank you for this tool, Dave!